for Survivors

A Survivor is someone who has lost a loved one by suicide. The death of a person by suicide can have a significant emotional, mental, or financial impact on family members, friends, coworkers, and others.

Whether you have lost someone to suicide or want to help another person who has, it is useful to know
about resources that exist. Did you know that for every suicide it is estimated that at least six people are significantly affected? Perhaps as many of 30 to 60 people in the larger social network also may be affected.

Based on this, there are at least 6,000 individuals affected by suicide deaths each year in Illinois.
Just as individuals with depression or suicidal thoughts are not alone, nor are the survivors of suicide.

As a survivor of suicide, it is important to know that there is no one way to grieve and cope with the suicide of your loved one. The thing to keep in mind is allow yourself time to grieve and do not allow yourself to get caught up in a feeling of, “If Only, I’d…”.

"You are NOT responsible for your loved one’s suicide."

It will never be alright that your loved one is gone, but it is Ok to heal and continue living. Please focus
on helping yourself cope with the loss instead of focusing on what you would have or should have
done differently.

Please take care of yourself physically, mentally and spiritually. consider the following as you begin to cope with your loss:

  • Set your own pace to grieve and cope.

  • Rely on the support of family, friends and others.

  • Join a support group for survivors of suicide.

  • Share your personal story, as you see fit, with others.

  • Talk with your minister, priest, rabbi or other faith leader.

  • Ask for professional help if you feel you are beginning to experience signs of depression and /or suicidal thoughts.

  • Become involved with suicide prevention initiatives in your community.

Remember, it is okay to grieve; it is okay to cry; it is okay to be angry; it is okay to miss your loved one. Furthermore, it is okay to heal and continue living.

If you need help coping with the loss of your loved one, please call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or use the It Only Takes One ZIP Code Directory to find a resource near you.